1. Be clear, honest, and calm with both your husband and mother in law about your needs and desires. To be a great daughter in law, be honest.
2. Gracefully and humbly admit it if you’ve made a mistake, such as expecting too much or trying to control your husband’s mother’s actions or personality.
3. Respect your mother in law’s opinions, wisdom, age, and experience. Build a good relationship with your husband’s mother listening to her.
4. Stay away from your in laws if they could harm or abuse you or your children.
5. Have a “party line” and stick to it (“We chose to spend the money this way and we stand by our decision,” said calmly and repeatedly will eventually dissuade even the most stubborn mother in law).
6. Let your husband – her son – discuss big issues with her. As the daughter in law, stand back. Encourage him to set and maintain boundaries, such as calling before visiting.
7. Call your mother in law just to say hi. Being a great daughter in law starts with being thoughtful.
8. Be firm that your mother in law respects your wishes. If she shows up uninvited despite your request to call first, gently turn her away. You may be her daughter in law but you can stick to your guns!
9. Stand up for yourself if your mother in law criticizes your appearance, house, or parenting style. Point out remarks you think are unfair or unnecessary when they happen (not months later, or to your husband that night).
10. Enlist your husband’s support in standing up for yourself. Building a good relationship with you mother in law involves getting support.
11. Stick to your decisions as wife, mother, and daughter in law.
12. Be considerate of health concerns of your mother in law, such as depression, failing physical health, and fears of aging. A great daughter in law cares about other people’s health.
13. Be consistently clear that your mother in law is not in control of your home, children, or husband.
14. Be patient in the face of hostility, silence, or rejection. Building a good relationship with your mother in law requires patience.
15. Show respect and compassion to your husband’s mother even when you don’t feel like it.
16. Learn the difference between “help” and “control”. Help is lending money; control is dictating how it’s spent. Build a good relationship with your mother in law by focusing on helping or being helped.
17. Realize that being firm and clear about your wishes won’t ruin your relationship. Building a good relationship with your husband’s mother requires work!
18. Pay attention to your mother in law’s needs and wishes. A great daughter in law considers others’ desires.
19. Ask your mother in law to join your world! Invite her to take a walk, yoga class, or art gallery tour with you. Change your environment, and you may change your daughter in law relationship.
20. Accept that personality conflicts happen, and learn to live with differences of opinion, perspective, and culture. A great daughter in law knows and accepts who she is.
Sarees were very much in fashion in a traditional Indian wedding. In today’s wedding functions woman prefers to wear saris in different styles. Fashion designers have come up with new ways to drape wedding sarees, which are quite popular among today’s woman. Saris always had a sensuous and elegant look at the same time. The wedding sari or Bridal sari is given a lot of importance in India.
Indian Saris come in different fabrics from cotton to silk, from georgettes to crapes, from traditionals like Banarasi to Kanjeevaram or a silk. Wedding saris are given a lot of emphasis in Indian family. It ranges from few thousands to few lakhs of rupees. Saris today have a lot of work done on them. They come in various varieties and styles. Zari, embroidery, organza, zardosi, sequence, cut work, mirror work, patchwork, pearl work, kasab, kundan, are all different kinds of work, which are found in sari.
Earlier it was compulsory for Indian brides to wear heavy Benarasi sari for her wedding but now it is not so but still brides are preferring to wear saris for their wedding. Though the styles and embroidery has changed. Earlier it was lot more heavy work and rich now it is lot more sleek and light in fabric.
Saree makes a woman look graceful, elegant, stylish, and sensuous. But sarees should be draped properly. Here are some tips on how to buy a saree, which suits your personality.
Women who are a bit heavier should buy saris, which are light like georgette, silk chignon or chiffon. For the gorgeous option they can try heavy Mysore silk sarees or silk based Kanjeevaram, which looks beautiful and one tends to look slimmer.
For shorter women they should buy saris with small borders or no borders. They should definitely avoid big borders as big borders make one look shorter. Big border are mainly for women who have a good height. For short woman they can go for self or single color it will make them look taller.
Thin women should buy saris, which are a bit fluffy like organza, cotton fabric, tissue and tussar saris. These saris give a fuller effect and give a broad look.
Avoid large prints in sarees, as it gives a gaudy and a huge look. Delicate and sober print on a sari gives a delicate and stylish look.
Dark skin color women should generally buy dark colors like maroon, green, dark pink and avoid light colors and bright colors.
Saris can be really elegant and stylish if worn properly and with right accessories.
Which bag to wear – from tiny clutch to spacious sling bag – depends on everyone’s individual style and the statement one wants to make. Matching the right bag with the right Indian wedding dress is the most important thing; a slim sari will not work with a baggy purse or vice versa – a heavily patterned wedding outfit will not work with a tiny bag that gets lost. Keep these five bag basics in mind before making a decision:
Marriage is best moment of life .Every bride think of her wedding in a different and unique manner ,Every woman, whether pretty or plain, at one time in her life wishes, she could change the way she looked and the time comes during her wedding.Bridal make up is as costly as one piece of gold jewelry now a days .bridal make up is as important as bridal jewellery to a bride as both the things compliment each other in different manner .Mostly bridal make up is done in red and golden hues but red is no more in demand . Bridal dress ISavailable in lots of color that can be wear by bride on wedding day make up is done as per the color of dress. Make up enhance beauty of bride wedding packages are now available for bridal make up .wedding make up is different from make up done on pre wedding ceremonies Usually light make up is applied for all the pre wedding ceremonies. This makes it easy for the bride to carry it as she is involved in many activities. On the contrary heavy makeup is applied on the main wedding ceremony.
on my wedding i was wearing red dress to look more traditional on wedding day. Red is basic color for bride as par my opinion if none of color suits you you an blindly go for red color .I did red golden make up i was very nervous as i never like dark lipstick but i was amazed to see myself after wedding make up was done red lipstick was looking very beautiful on my face with red golden bridal dress(lehenga).It is difficult to carry heavy make up so i suggest always apply water proof make up on wedding ( summers as well as winters ).The makeup of the bride is kept exclusive to make her stand out of the crowd, but should not look overdone at any cost. Therefore, i advised to go for a skilled makeup artist, who knows the art well.
Jewellery are girls best friend.Jewellery and girls relation is like fish and water. In India it is traditionally said jewellery is beauty of the girl jewellery are essential part of women in India .Indian bride is decked with jewellery from head to toe and every single piece of jewellery compliment each other and making bride to look charming.wedding is most auspicious in India.Now Indian bridal jewellery turns from classic to trendy jewellery .
Tradition and modernity understands the need of today’s bride to be who prefers elegance yet never wish to surpass the generations of traditionalism.wearing heavy bridal jewelry does not end up with wedding. But also on the engagement party that an Indian bride-to-be might be having before her big day. Bride wedding jewellery is decided as per wedding outfit.The Indian bridal jewellery would have to include earrings, nose rings, necklaces, bracelets or bangles as well as anklets and other possible adornments of the body that could be made with precious stones. These jewelries could be made of the most precious gems like diamonds, rubies, sapphires and emeralds among others, set in gold, silver or platinum.
Jewellery for both occasion will be different .For engagement jewellery will be not as heavy as on wedding day one may prefer to wear light jewellery in stone .Bridal jewellery can be booked or it may purchased depending upon choice. I will suggest you take ewelry on rent because jewellery is very heavy that can not be used in future .very good quality n design may cost you 3500Rs in India there are certain term for rented jewellery on Day rent can be 500Rs to 1000 thousand .Rest security that you have to submit to shop dealer. For the Indian bride, the most opulent the Indian bridal jewellejry is, the better.
Every girl is fond of getting married one day with her price charming .When bride apply mehndi on her hands there is mehendi mantra known as hidden groom name.Applying mehndi on wedding is dream of every Indian bride .When i applied mehendi on my wedding i asked artist to scattered the alphabet & hide them . It is kind of game which is usually played between groom and bride.Some times due to stress of marriage planning and hours & hours wearing heavy jewellery couple may forget this kind of ceremony .I must say one should not miss such opportunity as they are once in a lifetime for every couple .As weddingmantras says marriages is once in a lifetime in our place(India)
Traditionally name is hidden in mehndi in order for the wedding night to commence the groom must find his name.IIf the groom fails to find his name within the intricate patterns, the bride will be more dominant in life .Sometimes the wedding night is not allowed to commence until the groom has found the names. This is also seen it gives chance to let the groom touch the bride’s hands in order to find his name, thus initiating a physical relationship.
So brides do not forgot to write on name oops hidden name of your groom on your well designed palm & you must ask for your gift if your groom is unable to find his name on your pretty palm.Also do not forget hidden groom name ceremony .This is only ceremony which is played by both of you .So better not miss the chance !!!!!!!!
Mehendi is a traditional body art. It is mainly applied to enhance the beauty of a person. Even though it can beapplied on arms, wrists, biceps, legs & other parts of the body .Now mehendi is applied with help of cone made up of plastic sheet,which are as similar as cake decorating tubes .Readymade cones of mehendi(heena) are available in market.Mehendi is also applies with the help of tooth pick or needle but creativie designer use cones to apply good designs.Brides apply mehendi on there wedding ,they apply heena /mehendi on ther efeets n arms .Mehendi is applied on mehendi raat ceremony.
1)Make a smooth henna paste by sifting the dry mehndi / henna powder to remove any debris and adding to it a hot mixture of tea or coffee and mustard oil until it has a mud-like firmness.
2)After the paste is ready take a plastic cone with a very fine key-hole at the end. Pour the paste into the cone and tie the broader end with a rubber band.
3)Hold the cone in the right hand and gently squeeze the paste on the palm and start making patterns.
4)Keep the palm horizontal and let the patterned-paste rest on it till dry.
5)Warm it near the fire and leave it on for as long as it takes to get the stains deeper.
6)When it is almost dry, dab a piece of cotton in sugar and lemon solution and apply lightly on the designs so it further darkens to a reddish-brown hue that can last for weeks.
7)After 2-4 hours wash off the hands with plain water.
