1. Be clear, honest, and calm with both your husband and mother in law about your needs and desires. To be a great daughter in law, be honest.
2. Gracefully and humbly admit it if you’ve made a mistake, such as expecting too much or trying to control your husband’s mother’s actions or personality.
3. Respect your mother in law’s opinions, wisdom, age, and experience. Build a good relationship with your husband’s mother listening to her.
4. Stay away from your in laws if they could harm or abuse you or your children.
5. Have a “party line” and stick to it (“We chose to spend the money this way and we stand by our decision,” said calmly and repeatedly will eventually dissuade even the most stubborn mother in law).
6. Let your husband – her son – discuss big issues with her. As the daughter in law, stand back. Encourage him to set and maintain boundaries, such as calling before visiting.
7. Call your mother in law just to say hi. Being a great daughter in law starts with being thoughtful.
8. Be firm that your mother in law respects your wishes. If she shows up uninvited despite your request to call first, gently turn her away. You may be her daughter in law but you can stick to your guns!
9. Stand up for yourself if your mother in law criticizes your appearance, house, or parenting style. Point out remarks you think are unfair or unnecessary when they happen (not months later, or to your husband that night).
10. Enlist your husband’s support in standing up for yourself. Building a good relationship with you mother in law involves getting support.
11. Stick to your decisions as wife, mother, and daughter in law.
12. Be considerate of health concerns of your mother in law, such as depression, failing physical health, and fears of aging. A great daughter in law cares about other people’s health.
13. Be consistently clear that your mother in law is not in control of your home, children, or husband.
14. Be patient in the face of hostility, silence, or rejection. Building a good relationship with your mother in law requires patience.
15. Show respect and compassion to your husband’s mother even when you don’t feel like it.
16. Learn the difference between “help” and “control”. Help is lending money; control is dictating how it’s spent. Build a good relationship with your mother in law by focusing on helping or being helped.
17. Realize that being firm and clear about your wishes won’t ruin your relationship. Building a good relationship with your husband’s mother requires work!
18. Pay attention to your mother in law’s needs and wishes. A great daughter in law considers others’ desires.
19. Ask your mother in law to join your world! Invite her to take a walk, yoga class, or art gallery tour with you. Change your environment, and you may change your daughter in law relationship.
20. Accept that personality conflicts happen, and learn to live with differences of opinion, perspective, and culture. A great daughter in law knows and accepts who she is.
A relationship means two people connecting with each other – In profit and in loss, in pleasure and in pain. In a relationship, we know that we have somebody with us. We are not alone. A relationship can be life giving and life changing.
Many times in our life, we want to achieve some goals. We have our dreams and our ideas. We never reveal them to anyone. But if we relate to somebody very well, we will tell about this to that person. If our relationship is good, we will get support and encouragement. Please go ahead. I think you are very intelligent and you can do this. You have the capability. I will be with you at every step.
Sometimes, we fall sick and feel very helpless. A prolonged sickness affects the confidence. Only a relationship supports us at that time. Please have no worry. You will get all right. Everything will be Ok very soon. Please believe me. I am with you at all the times. Words can give life.
I can give many examples like these. A relationship gets us a friend, a lover and a confident. When we have a partner, we are not alone. We can open ourselves without fear. We can act as we wish and believe that it will be understood. A good relationship is invaluable. Many times some of us never realize our strength. Our partner points that out to us and tells us – darling, you are so good in this. Why not progress further. You will perform fantastically. This can change our outlook and enhance our self-esteem. Please increase the intimacy and make your relationship of the kind that gives life its true joy.
1. All work and no intimacy make a dull couple. It is a given that after a crazy day at the office, the husband and wife both feel exhausted. But they must not let it get in the way of their relationship. They must allow for some quality time in and out of their love bed.
2. The husband must give what his wife wants: quality talk time. Wives want to talk things out and express what is inside their hearts. The husband must grant her that as this is one way to achieve emotional intimacy.
3. The couple must still exert an effort to look attractive. It does not mean that both must be “dressed up” all the time. But married couples must still try their best to look nice for their partners. This is one of the ways to start up the intimacy.
4. The couple must schedule dates. Dating must not end at marriage. In fact, both should set a time to go out and have fun, just like before.
5. Husband and wife must continually unleash their romantic side. Kisses, hugs, flowers, holding hands, stolen smacks…’the works’ – they do magic in a relationship.
6. Surprises are nice. Sweet surprises always lead to intimacy. If the couple knows when to pull off these incredibly romantic stints, then that’s a surefire way to attain a divorce-proof relationship.
7. Solving a problem before it gets blown out of proportion is important. Intimacy loses its appeal once it gets “infected” by those conflicts that cripple the relationship. Conflicts should let a couple grow and not cause the downfall. It is nice to earn that happily-ever-after plateau.
But marriage is not as easy as a Disney fairytale had told everyone. Intimacy must be m
